What you think the first date is going to be like vs what it’s actually like
For most of us, the first date in a budding romance is a time of equal excitement and pure panic. You’re worried about what they’re going to think of you, how you should dress and whether or not you should just be yourself or play down those weird habits you’ve developed from lack of sleep. Ugh, I’m getting stressed just thinking about it.
Fortunately, I’m here to break down some of your pre-date woes by filling you in on how you can expect your first date to go. Spoiler alert: there’s going to be a lot less long walks on the beach and more hanging out in your room with Netflix (the real MVP).
Expectation: It’ll be love at first sight the minute you make eye contact
Reality: You can’t find them at the bar and have to awkwardly message back and forth
We all know that scene in every cheesy romance movie, when our fated lovers see each for the first time and fall instantly in love as fireworks go off in the background. The reality is just a little bit different. Think more meeting online and standing awkwardly by the door of the bar as you realise you have no idea what your new love looks like IRL. Let’s be real, bars are generally crowded, under-lit places and most profile pictures are total lies. Cue the awkward back and forth trying to find each other.
Expectation: The conversation will flow naturally over fine wine and a candlelit dinner
Reality: You’re both way too awkward for proper sentences that make sense
The first date inevitably leads to one of two scenarios: you both end up gushing and reveal way too much about yourselves to a relative stranger, or neither of you talks much at all because you’re worried anything you say will come out horribly wrong.
Don’t worry, we’ve totally all been there. It wouldn’t be a proper date if you didn’t end up commenting on the weather at least three times while you try not to stare at the cutie you’ve somehow managed to convince to hang out with you. Embrace the silence, my friends, it’s not always a bad thing.
Expectation: It’ll be the pinnacle of romance with rose petals and sunsets
Reality: You end up catching a movie and heading to your local burger haunt because you’re both broke AF
There’s nothing wrong with wanting your first date to be nothing but the height of romance. Just don’t get too disheartened when you end up at your local pub or burger haunt because – be honest with yourself - you’re probably both students who survive off a diet of cheap coffee and instant noodles. Chowing down on a burger for dinner is pretty much the height of luxury in your life right now. Hey, at least you know it can only go up from here.
Expectation: You’ll end the date with a dreamy kiss at the doorstep
Reality: Your parents or roommates are definitely not passing on the opportunity to embarrass you
The end of your date is prime shenanigans time as far as your beloved roomies or parents are concerned. We’re talking giggles at the front window as you try to share an intimate moment and way too many questions from your well-meaning but ultimately overbearing parents. All is fair in the arena of dates. If you want to keep the blissful feeling alive, try and wrap things up in the car and don’t let your date come anywhere near where your housemates can see them. Just trust me on this one.
Shannon Coward is a fourth year Bachelor of Journalism and Bachelor of Arts student at the University of Queensland. She enjoys period dramas, doughnuts and a good nap.