The excuses that are preventing you from killing it in your 20s
Sometimes excuses are harmless – maybe it’s making an excuse on why you can’t attend a second date after the first one was horrible, or getting out of going to a house party when all you really need is a mental health day. But some excuses aren’t doing you any benefits and might actually be holding you back from going after what you really want. These are the excuses to try keep out of your vocabulary.
“I’m too busy.”
If it’s something you really want, you’ll make time for it. Saying you’re too busy is just a cover for being afraid to go after something. Sure, life gets busy for everyone, but you’ll find the time for the things that matter.
“What if I fail?”
Well that’s a terrible excuse not to take a chance. You may fail, and that may feel shitty. We’ve all experienced some form of failure in our lives, but all it does is build us up. There will be a time where you’ll take a chance, you won’t fail and it’ll be wonderful.
“I’m not good enough.”
You don’t know that. You might assume there must be other people who are so much more talented, so much better suited or so much more likely to achieve their dreams than you are. But don’t try because you assume someone will be better than you – there’s always going to be someone more skilled at something,
“I’m comfortable where I am.”
Jumping out of that safety zone is scary, but staying comfortable is boring – which one would you rather? It might be confronting and different, but you’ll never progress towards your future dreams and goals if you stay in a comfortable little rut.
“It’s too hard.”
But is it impossible? It may be hard, but you might also be undermining your ability to do it. Take a step back, take a break and then return to it with a confident approach that you can do it.
“Everyone will judge me.”
This shouldn’t be a reason to not do what you really want to do. Conforming to what everyone else is doing is easy, being yourself and standing out is hard. But everyone else is too busy worrying about their own shit and worrying if people will judge them.
“I’ll do it later.”
The mother of all excuses. Putting it off is a bad idea in general; there’s no time like now to go after what you want. Once you use this excuse once, it becomes comfortable and you keep relying on it until a year has passed and you still haven’t done that thing you promised you’d do. The time is now fam.