The difference between your coupled friends vs your single friends
We all have one very single friend and one friend who seem to be celebrating an anniversary every week. Their Snapchat stories are different, sleeping patterns and even diets are different – they're like a separate species. And when it comes to their relationship with us, it does impact on us and it's like they give us the best of both worlds.
Having a food splurge with any friend is fun and although most times regretful, still worth it. With your friends in relationships, the binge happens more often than the average binge, because when you’re in a comfortable relationship, you’re eating habits get pretty comfortable too. It just happens, and I'm sure most of us are guilty of this. People who are single are usually (not always) more active and food conscious, so generally speaking if you want a Big Mac go with Rachel the relo-queen and if you want a salad bowl go with single Suzie. Rest assured, there's always going to be times when single Suzie will join you for a Macca’s run.
Without stereotyping here, going out with single friends is usually more enjoyable. The night is limitless. Don't get me wrong, going out with mates who are in relationships is still great fun. However, when they're in new relationships they’re usually glued to their phones texting their sweetheart “How much they wish they were with them right now instead of being out”. And if they do invite their new fella or lady-friend along, it’s suddenly two morphed into one.
We all need a good D&M now and then (all the time). I like to call it venting. When seeking advice, I’ve personally noticed that friends who are in relationships or have been in solid relationships in the past, are usually better at guiding me through the low-spirited times. It’s really because they can empathise rather than sympathise, especially when it comes to love and food cravings.
But we’re all young and going through most things at the same time, like dating terrible people and wondering if we’re really in the right uni course. A good friend, single or coupled, knows how to help you when they know who you really are and what you truly want, need and deserve.
Planning a trip
Similar to going out, it usually seems more fun and ideal when planning a trip with single friends. You can plan to go and do whatever you want really and it all sounds super exciting when planning.
When you’re going in a group and there is a couple tagging along, it could either be great or disastrous. You might wonder if they’ll fight the whole time or break up. If only one comes along, what if they seem uninterested because the other isn’t there? You can ponder all you want, but knowing a taken friend or couple really well before going on a trip is all you need to know before making the decision to plan a trip with them.
I’ve personally noticed that when I shop with coupled friends I just watch them like it’s a scene from 500 Days Of Summer where they run around IKEA pretending to be in a young two-year marriage. When I’m with single friends, it’s a scene from 500 Dollars outta my Bank Account. It really is a bittersweet relationship when shopping with a single friend. Social events and wanting to stand out really does add up and feels slightly regretful at every pay wave.
One thing I’ve noticed that is strangely interesting is just how many gift ideas my coupled friends have. Some of the ideas are just out of this world – no wonder these couples are still together. It must be like a bonus talent you’re given when signing the boyfriend/girlfriend contract.
At the end of the day, your friends are your friends and aren’t truly defined by their relationship status. Yes, it might affect a few things like what they’ll want to do this Saturday night and what kind of advice they’ll have when you’re having bad luck with a date. But there’s one thing they’ll almost always have in common to say to you, in the wise words of Samantha Jones from Sex and the City: “We're as fucked up as you are. It's like the blind leading the blind.”
Claudia studies Media Arts and Production at the University of Technology Sydney, is a major film and television fan and her favourite director is Quentin Tarantino.