Six reasons to keep your ex an ex
I am all for second chances. Second chances in life, friendships and love can all lead to some amazing experiences and opportunities, but it can also lead to yet another broken heart.
When you are faced with the question of whether to give your ex a second chance, it can be really hard to decide whether that chance will pay off. To help you out on the mind-boggling should-I-or-shouldn’t-I journey, here are just a few valid reasons to keep your ex an ex.
You’re just lonely
If you’re anything like me, your break up will have led to Bridget Jones’ Diary on repeat, a few too many tubs of ice cream, and a lot of D&Ms with your friends about how you’ll be forever alone. Loneliness is a classic part of the break up process, and it makes sense! You have lost that other half that you did everything with, but just missing having someone around might not be the best reason to go back to your ex.
Watching your ex move on sucks. With that in mind, if you’re thinking about getting back together because you simply don’t want them with someone else, that’s really not a good reason. Both of you have the right to move on if you want to, and even though it can be soul-crushing when you hear they have, you should respect their decision.
They completely broke your trust
There is an old saying that trust takes years to build, seconds to break and forever to repair. At the end of the day, relationships of any kind are all about trust, and if your ex did something that completely broke yours, think hard about whether you want to go back there...
There are plenty more fish in the sea
I know it feels like your ex is the only person in the world that can ever make you feel loved, and it might be the last thing you want to hear right now, but there really are plenty more fish in the sea. If you are going back to your ex just because you are scared that no one else will come along, take my advice and just enjoy being single for a little while – learn to love your own company and see if your perspective changes. You may even find that while you’re busy loving yourself, someone else is starting to love you too!
Your parents don’t like them
Sometimes parents have valuable life experience that can help them see what we can’t (or won’t). I’m not saying your parents are always right about who is best for you, but if your parents have made it clear that they think your ex isn’t good for you, you may just want to look into their reasons why before you rush back into that relationship.
You broke up in the first place…
This is the biggest and most obvious red flag. Why did you break up in the first place? There was a reason that you two are not together now, and it was obviously a pretty valid reason then! If you’re thinking about getting back together, make sure you really suss out whether the reason you broke up is still relevant.
At the end of the day, this life is your own, so whether you choose your ex, yourself, or someone brand new, make sure you are choosing happiness!
Chloe is an arts student at The University of Melbourne, as well as film lover, volunteering addict and pole fitness enthusiast.
Image: The Notebook