Six healthy ways to deal with a breakup

February 09, 2017
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Whether the relationship lasted three weeks or three years, breakups are emotionally draining and are unfortunately a part of life. There is no big secret that can fix how you’re feeling but I can tell you there are ways to healthily deal with a breakup that will cut your recovery time in half, rather than diving head first into a self-hating spiral. So put down the wine and take notes!

Quit lurking

That means Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat. The worst thing you can do is stalk them and try to see if they’re moving on faster than you. The result is never good and it doesn’t make you feel better. And it pushes your recovery time back. So do yourself a favour and try to cut off all contact. You’ll thank yourself.

Talk to your friends or family

It’s completely OK if you need some time alone to figure things out yourself. But don’t isolate your friends. After all, your friends were probably there before your partner was. They want to help you, so lean on them and let them take some of the weight off your shoulders. Venting to your mates with a bottle of wine can be therapeutic, but don’t let it become a habit. This is your time to be pathetic around people who love you and won’t judge you. Let them help you.

Take care of your body

For the first couple of weeks, you are entitled to stay in your room and do some ugly sobbing while watching The Notebook with a pizza all to yourself. But after that, realise that this is your time to rediscover and reinvent yourself! Pick up a new hobby that makes you happy, dye your hair, go on a road trip, do some squats and make them wish they still had that ass! This is a time for you to grow, so aim to make yourself better and happier than before.

Do things YOU love

Now is a great time to reclaim some things you let go during the course for your relationship. Maybe you want to do some dance classes that your partner was never up for? Or maybe you used to enjoy going clubbing and enjoying the party atmosphere, but your ex was never into that. In time, you will learn how to accept where you are in life. Be aware of what you’re feeling and recognise your self-worth.

Be cautious with rebounds

Having someone to touch you and make you feel loved again sounds appealing when you are post breakup, but most people rebound before they are truly back to themselves again. However, people recover at different paces (so no judging here)! But as you’re healing and growing, take a little time to focus on yourself.   

And lastly...

Take every day slow and know it won’t always feel like this. Remember that moving on is the end goal. It may seem like the sky is falling now, but in the grand scheme of your life, this is merely a bump in the road in the long and amazing journey ahead of you.

Sophie Nicolas

Sophie is currently studying a Bachelor of Arts and is an aspiring writer, dog enthusiast and thrift shop fashion icon.