Quotes you need to read RN if you’re struggling in your 20s

February 20, 2017
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If you’re in your 20s, chances are you’ve experienced the twenty-something existential crisis at some point. Maybe it’s because now is the time you have to make decisions about your future, or maybe it’s because you and all the people around you are going through more changes than ever before. If you’ve got the mid-20s blues, this is the inspo you need to read RN.

“I think we should stop asking people in their 20s what they 'want to do' and start asking them what they don’t want to do." – Amy Poehler

Preach Poehler. Your 20s is the time to figure it all out, so don’t feel bad if you don’t know exactly what you want to do yet. If you haven’t been trying to figure it out though, that’ll only make your existential crisis worse. Try different subjects, internships and even different degrees if you're not happy – you’ll be able to get a good idea of what’s a good fit for you and what’s definitely not right for you.

“Forget about having an identity crisis and get some identity capital. Do something that adds value to who you are. Do something that's an investment in who you might want to be next.” – Meg Jay

Psychologist and author of The Defining Decade has so much wisdom to share about your 20s (which you can hear about in her TED Talk). Her underlying message is to not put off what you could do today. Your 20s shouldn’t be a throwaway period – even if you don’t know what you want to do yet, the decisions you make now will have an impact on you for the rest of the decade and beyond. So spend your time investing in yourself and things that will add to your wellbeing, happiness and career growth.

 “Feeling better doesn’t come from avoiding adulthood, it comes from investing in adulthood.” – Meg Jay

Because srsly you really need to listen to that TED Talk.

“Your 20s are your ‘selfish’ years. It’s a decade to immerse yourself in every single thing possible. Be selfish with your time and all the aspects of you. Tinker with shit, travel, explore, love a lot, love a little and never touch the ground.” – Kyoko Escamilla

It really sums up the 20s experience quite nicely. The most important takeaway from this is do what you love – if you want to be an artist, don’t waste your 20s in a law job. If you want to travel the world, don’t put it off saying you’ll have plenty of time later. Now is your time.

“‘Why the fuck not me?’ should be your motto.” – Mindy Kaling

Everyone needs to hear this confident #girlboss mantra. If you want something, go after it. Even if your dreams seem out of reach or hard to achieve, don’t assume you can’t do it. Just go for it. Why the fuck not?

“Don’t become something just because someone else wants you to, or because it’s easy; you won’t be happy. You have to do what you really, really, really want to do, even if it scares the shit out of you.” – Kristen Wiig

Pretty self-explanatory but it needs to be said. Your family and friends might think they know what’s best for you, but only you can make that decision. You’ll never be happy if you're just doing a medicine degree to please your parents – distinguish between your wants and the wants of others and stop living the life someone else wants you to lead. It’s scary to say no and go against them, but you’ll have to if you want to do what’s best for you.

 “You’ll be fine. You’re 25. Feeling [unsure] and lost is part of your path. Don’t avoid it. See what those feelings are showing you and use it. Take a breath. You’ll be OK. Even if you don’t feel OK all the time.” — Louis C.K.

Why is it that comedians always have the wisest words? The mid-20s blues are real and you won’t feel happy all the time, but embrace the change and work towards what does make you happy.