It's totally OK to go solo - here's why

April 29, 2016
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We live in a culture of social activity. Our cities are constantly encouraging us to go out and see what is on offer, whether it be free art events, outdoor cinemas, or music gigs. It’s a shame to miss out on what’s happening around you, but people often skip out when they don’t have anyone to go with. However, there is absolutely nothing wrong with heading out on your own.

I’m very lucky to call Sydney my home, because there’s always something to do. It’s a long way off from the small country town of my birth; it’s impossible to get bored living here. However, I used to stop myself from heading out because I didn’t always have someone to go with.

After years of struggling with the anxiety of being seen at a social event all by my lonesome (gasp!), I’ve realised that there is actually nothing wrong with going out by myself and seeing what my city has to offer. In fact, I now prefer it.

If you’re a social butterfly, you may say, “No way, I always have someone to hang with.” If that’s the case, I strongly encourage you to read on. And if you’re like me, you can keep this list on hand when you head out alone and ensure you have a positive experience no matter what.

It’s cool to go solo. Here’s why.

You’ll save money

It’s often the case that grabbing a drink with a group of people can be classified as a big night out – not just for your head, but for your wallet. If you choose to go to a new wine bar by yourself, you’ll find that there’s only the need to grab two to three drinks, because that’s enough to keep you happy. This is just one example of many that will see your bank account thanking you for riding solo.

You will be able to do more of what you want to do, when you want to do it

There will be no more indecision about where to go, because you’ll be the only one deciding. If you want to head somewhere, you won’t be held back and you’ll get it done. How’s that for awesome?

You will meet new, likeminded people

The people that head along to a theatre performance along with you will also be interested in it, so it makes sense that if you start talking to them, you’ll have something in common. Who knows, you may gain a new circle of friends!

You’ll learn to become more independent, and this skill will make you a better person overall

Going out alone is hardest for social butterflies because they thrive from surrounding themselves with others. However, having a certain amount of independence is a must-have skill for adulthood and will mean that your work, study and personal relationships have a better chance of flourishing.

You’ll be healthier and happier

It’s just an all-around good thing for your health to spend some time by yourself doing things you love. Trust me, you’ll soon be a more carefree and emotionally connected individual. Not convinced? There’s further evidence to support my case.

Bridget Conway

Bridget is a poet, writer, editor and critic currently residing in Sydney. She loves her cats, Star Trek, writing about mental health, and cooking vegetarian food. Check out her daily musings on her blog

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