How to make friends when parties aren't your thing
Ah, parties - they’re the stock and trade of the uni social calendar. Pub-crawls, booze cruises and society balls seem to be the events of the year. They’re where casual lecture acquaintances become lifelong friends with the help of everyone’s favourite poison: alcohol. But what if it’s just not your cup of tea? How does one cross the line from acquaintance to friend then? Fear not, my homebodies, there are plenty of ways to make friends that don’t include being smashed at 2am in the middle of the CBD. You’ll have a cool lecture clique in no time.
Join clubs and societies
I’ll start off with the most obvious one. Clubs and societies exist to bring people with similar interests and talents together, and your best shot at finding friends is by exhausting everything they have to offer. Not all activities are pub-crawls or jungle parties, so if you must, just attend club activities that occur during the day. Depending on the frequency of meetings or activities, you’ll end up seeing the same people on a regular basis, and with a similar interest you’ll have a go-to topic to talk about and build a friendship on. It’s the best way to find likeminded friends in the melting pot that is uni.
Plan a night in
Not into hitting the town? Then just have everyone else hit up your place. A sweet night in holds infinite possibilities. Dust off the silverware and pretend to be an adult with a fancy dinner party. Buy some popcorn and plan a good old-fashioned movie marathon. Or, just put on that ’90s playlist and let it work its magic. Invite some old friends, sprinkle in some new ones, and watch your social circle grow before your very eyes.
If your house is not exactly in a central location, be sure to provide room for people to spend the night (especially if there’s alcohol involved), and let the night rage on all the way to brekkie the next morning. Macca’s, anyone?
Form a study group
Forming a study group kills two birds with one stone: it helps you make friends and it helps you avoid failing your units. A majority of my tutors have stressed the benefits of a study group. It helps solidify what you already know and patch up the gaps in your knowledge, without the stress of being judged by the teaching staff. And what hope do you have of studying harmoniously if you don’t at least get along? What’s more, you only really need to get one casual acquaintance on board, and they’ll bring along some of their acquaintances to beef up the numbers. So there are more potential friends without the worry of approaching them in a crowded lecture. It’s a win-win.
If you’re lucky enough to have someone from uni living relatively close by, carpooling provides the perfect opportunity for bonding. You’ll be trapped in a moving vehicle for a fair amount of time, so conversation will happen as long as you let it. Pop the radio on and have a sing, or play a memory game if you run out of stuff to talk about. Soon enough, you’ll be playing punch buggy and revising for the tute you’re both getting to. Plus, they’ll be your ticket to the carpool parking. Just make sure to concentrate on the road.
Making friends is never easy, and not being into a universal social norm doesn’t help either. But hopefully doing one (or all) of these things will help make meeting new peopl that bit easier. Happy socialising!
Kim is an Arts (Journalism)/Law Student at Deakin University and deals primarily in memes.