How to get through the quarter life crisis you’re experiencing RN
The quarter life crisis is a unique beast. After wishing high school away, you’re suddenly at uni and confronted by the fact that you have no idea what you’re doing with your life.
It is very easy to fall into this trap. A world of possibilities lie ahead, but the sheer volume of those possibilities can make settling into a course of action overwhelming. Plus, the whole world expecting you to have a game plan doesn’t help.
Luckily, your 20s is the best time to have a crisis, as you’ve got all the time and the resources to work through it at your disposal.
It’s time to take a good look at your life, with a fresh lens. Where are things going wrong? Which areas of your life are no longer fulfilling? Isolating the problem is key to resolving any crisis, so be prepared for some serious reflection. Be absolutely brutal with yourself – it will pay off tenfold in the long run.
Now look to the future. What do you want to achieve? While this may seem like a loaded question, broad goals are a good first step in the right direction. It can be as grand as a Nobel Prize or as open-ended as wanting to help people. So long as you have some idea, make changes to work towards that goal. Over time, your path will form itself.
However, you may not find a problem. Introspection can also mean clearing up any doubts, and simply reaffirm that you are indeed on the path you want to be. Feeling off doesn’t always mean that something needs to change. Just examine everything, and act according to what you see.
Take time off
If you find that your current situation is just too much to deal with, taking a time out can be very useful. Defer uni for a semester or two and try work or travel. A location or vocation change can lift you out of a slump that you may feel in your current life, and help you see it from a new perspective.
This is your 20s – the fact that you’re most likely not tied down to a house or a job makes it so easy to dabble in everything and anything. While that may seem overwhelming, start in areas closest to you and work your way through. Try some electives in an area that you’re interested in. Take a short course, try freelance work, start a blog or upload YouTube videos. Indulge in your hobbies and interests and see what sticks. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Coming to the realisation that something in your life isn’t right is only one half of getting through a crisis. The next step is to take action, and make tangible changes to the areas of your life that are unsatisfying. While that may be easier said than done, sometimes you’ve just got to take the leap and change your course, quit your job or move out. Trust that you have what it takes to make it through and trust that the world will be there to catch you. It will all work out in the end, however far away that end may be.
While a quarter life crisis may feel like the end of the world, with enough reflection and action, it can be a very exciting beginning. So take a deep breath, and as much time as you need. You’ll thank yourself later.
Kim is and Arts (Journalism)/Law student at Deakin and deals primarily in memes and blogging.