‘Cushioning’ and other ridiculous new dating trends that are actually the worst
They just keep on coming. If you thought breadcrumbing, ghosting and benching were bad enough, the dating terms don’t stop there. In the world of modern dating, we can’t just say that someone we’ve dated is a shitty person – we have to coin a specific term that defines their behaviour. These are the latest dating terms to surface that don’t make us feel any better about our generation’s dating habits.
One of the latest trends known as ‘cushioning’ is a particularly shitty behaviour and borderline cheating. According to UrbanDictionary, this trend comes about when a person in an exclusive relationship continues to flirt with other people, i.e. ‘cushions’. They do this so they have back-up options in case the current relationship doesn’t work out. Yep, we know. This isn’t exactly a trend that any of us would like to catch on.
Not to be confused with ghosting, this trend supposedly occurs after the dating phase. It’s when a (possibly jilted) ex is still present in your life, without any direct contact. Instead, they’ll watch all your Snapchat stories or occasionally like your posts on Facebook or Insta. They’re either doing it to remind you that they’re still in your life or they’re doing it simply to mess with you. Creepy. AF.
Just when you wondered who the fuck comes up with these names, we found a source for this trend – and surprise, surprise its Reddit. The highly credibly source, Reddit user Cupcake-Warrior, explained:
"Posting a Snapchat to your story and then waiting for that one specific person to watch it, is the modern day equivalent of Gatsby throwing elaborate parties seeking Daisy's attention.”
We’ve all done it, but do we need a name for it?
Do we need the terms?
Sure, maybe these terms will make you feel better knowing there’s a word that perfectly describes the actions of that D-Bag you dated. It might feel comforting to know that others, just like you, have experienced the same shitty feeling. Or maybe these dating terms will just make us singles feel even worse about the calibre of people out there. If we accept these dating trends, we accept the shitty dating behaviour.